The Hidden Purpose Behind Human Values & Judgement That Causes SUFFERING | Dr. John Demartini

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The mature intellect can hold paradox simultaneously, allowing one to see both sides of an event without labeling it, leading to a more authentic self. Trauma stems from the inability to see both sides of an event simultaneously, leading to suffering.

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The matured intellect can see both sides of an event without labeling it, leading to a deeper understanding and reduced suffering from trauma.
Prioritizing one's values and purpose enables conscious creation of life as desired, fostering inspiration and liberation.
Integrating all aspects of oneself, including the shadow side, leads to wholeness and empowerment, transforming perspectives and relationships positively.
Seeking hidden order in apparent chaos challenges the concept of entropy, emphasizing the importance of perceiving opposing forces simultaneously for growth and evolution.

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How can one overcome feelings of pride and shame?
By living according to highest values.

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Summary

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Embracing Paradox: Law of Attraction and Values

The matured intellect can hold paradox simultaneously, allowing one to see both sides of an event without labeling it.
Trauma stems from the inability to see both sides of an event simultaneously, leading to suffering.
The Law of Attraction enables conscious creation of life as desired, with the key being to prioritize one's values and purpose.
Prioritizing one's values liberates and inspires, leading to living an inspired life aligned with one's calling.
Identifying one's highest value is crucial, as it dictates how one perceives, decides, and acts, shaping their destiny.
The Telos, or highest value, is the most meaningful and purposeful pursuit, guiding one's identity and actions.
Living by one's highest value leads to fulfillment and liberation from distractions, allowing for a more authentic self.
Integrating the process of admiring or feeling superior to others involves identifying specific traits and actions, reflecting on them, and owning them within oneself.
Balancing pride and shame, and seeing oneself in others, leads to authenticity and intimacy, where nothing is missing within oneself.
Acknowledging and honoring the divine in oneself and others fosters fulfillment and love, transcending judgments and illusions.

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Embrace self-reflection to collapse judgment.

Reflect on your own actions to identify traits you admire or despise in others.
Hold yourself accountable by activating episodic memory and considering who perceives your actions.
Repeat the process until you fully own the traits you see in others.
Acknowledge self-judgment as the root of external judgment.
Use reflective awareness to recognize past instances of traits you admire in others within yourself.
Understand that judgment stems from unconsciousness and a lack of self-love.
Embrace the idea that all traits, positive or negative, exist within you and are projected onto others.
Seek to collapse judgment by acknowledging the simultaneous existence of polar opposites.
Avoid reacting based on subjective biases created by contrasting yourself with others.
Strive to bridge the gap between subjective perception and objective reality for fulfillment and growth.

26:42

"Values Influence Perception and Manifestation"

The thalamus filters and gates information based on our hierarchy of values, allowing us to focus on what is important to us.
Our perceptions are dictated by our hierarchy of values, influencing what we notice in our environment.
Living by our highest values leads to efficient filtering, increasing the likelihood of synchronicities and matching intentions.
Subtle senses and sensory systems are continually being discovered in neurology, enhancing our understanding of perception.
Our innermost dominant thought shapes our external reality when we prioritize our actions and perceptions based on our highest values.
A study showed that 20% of patients who had been inactive for six months returned to the doctor's office after staff members focused on their files.
Synchronicities, such as thinking of someone who then contacts you, occur frequently enough to be significant.
Clarifying what we want and focusing on our values increases the probability of achieving our goals.
Devoting time to defining objectives and focusing on what we want can lead to the manifestation of desired outcomes.
Our values are shaped by both inherent tendencies and external influences, with experiences and conditioning contributing to our priorities.

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Transformative stories inspire growth and empowerment.

The speaker learned to play the flute by practicing consistently since the age of 18, aiming to travel the world and speak, which inspires them daily.
They emphasize the importance of facing challenges as opportunities for growth and living a purpose-driven life.
A story is shared about a wealthy man in South Africa who was kidnapped and held for ransom, leading to a transformative realization about his priorities and relationships.
The speaker guides the man through a process of reframing his traumatic experience, helping him see the positive aspects and benefits that emerged from the ordeal.
The man's perspective shifts, leading to improved relationships with his family, better health, and increased success in his business.
The speaker highlights the importance of integrating all aspects of oneself, including the shadow side, to achieve wholeness and empowerment.
Another story is shared about a young boy labeled as troubled due to his past, but through research on successful individuals with similar backgrounds, he shifts to seeing himself as special and destined for greatness.
The speaker challenges the idea of victimhood and encourages individuals to reframe their stories to become masters of their destinies.
They discuss the societal pressure to conform to one-sided ideals and the importance of embracing all aspects of oneself to avoid suffering and regain personal power.
The speaker emphasizes the need to process grief by acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of a lost loved one, leading to a more balanced and healing experience.

51:52

Dissolving Grief Through Love and Awareness

Grief is the result of holding onto a fantasy that has been broken, leading to a sense of loss.
By loving someone for all their aspects, they remain present, and grief can be dissolved.
The speaker has successfully helped individuals dissolve grief in various settings, including after natural disasters and in conflict zones.
The concept of grief and relief polarity was developed by the speaker in 1976 and has been effective in addressing grief since then.
Infatuation is often mistaken for love, leading to unrealistic expectations in relationships.
To overcome infatuation, individuals must acknowledge both positive and negative traits in their partners.
Living by one's highest priorities can reduce feelings of pride and shame, leading to more reflective awareness.
Self-righteousness stems from the amygdala's desire to avoid pain and seek pleasure, leading to moral hypocrisies.
Peace and war are always balanced globally, as shown by the Global Peace Index.
Maximum growth occurs at the border of support and challenge, peace and war, with love being the synthesis of these opposites.

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Navigating Peace and Turmoil in Relationships

Finding peace in relationships involves moments of peace and turmoil.
Having a child doesn't guarantee total peace but brings moments of calm and conflict.
Family reunions showcase opposing values leading to both calm and turmoil.
Work environments also experience periods of calm and challenge.
World peace is unrealistic as growth requires support and challenge.
Internal conflict drives the desire for outer peace, while internal peace may lead to stirring things up.
Pairs of opposites like sympathetic and parasympathetic systems are essential for evolution.
Love necessitates transformation for evolution in a changing world.
Suffering arises from the inability to perceive opposing forces simultaneously.
Seeking hidden order in apparent chaos is a lifelong pursuit, challenging the concept of entropy.

01:17:05

"Exploring Universe, Wisdom, and Love"

Freeman Dyson believed in a pan psychic Universe, with a list of about a thousand names in the pan psychic world.
The Nobel Prize winner for discovering the HIV virus, Monu, explored water memory and found that fields around DNA were stored in water.
A textbook on the origin of life discusses hydrothermal vents and the role of water in creating RNA, suggesting a common denominator in all models.
The universe is seen as having an infinite number of pairs of opposites at all scales, with no beginning or end, reflecting our own finite thinking.
Religion has evolved from geomorphic to zoomorphic to anthromorphic, reflecting our fears and desires, ultimately leading to the highest level of abstract thought in pure mathematics.
Judging others is based on physical traits, actions, and character traits, leading to false causality assumptions and illusions that can be neutralized by asking quality questions.
Wisdom and love are inseparable, with Howard Hughes emphasizing the importance of dedicating life to the love of wisdom and the wisdom of love.
God is interpreted based on brain development stages, from pantheistic to monotheistic beliefs, reflecting our fears and desires for appeasement.
A martial arts lesson teaches that perceiving attack as an invitation to dance transcends the predator-prey dynamic, leading to a moment of unity beyond opposites.
Socrates' wisdom stemmed from acknowledging the vastness of what is unknown, emphasizing the importance of continuous learning and humility in the face of infinite ignorance.

01:29:56

"Embracing Love, Expanding Consciousness, Fulfilling Mastery"

The speaker emphasizes the importance of finding love in every event, highlighting that manmade structures of good and bad are illusions of the mind.
Asking quality questions and seeing both sides simultaneously is liberating and aids in expanding consciousness.
The focus is on the evolution of human consciousness rather than defining right and wrong.
The speaker acknowledges their relative awareness and ignorance in various areas, delegating tasks outside their expertise.
Mastery in valued areas leads to fulfillment and a desire for philanthropy and contribution.
The speaker's life path involves teaching, researching, writing, and traveling extensively, aiming to disseminate knowledge through various mediums.
Life is broken down into seven areas: inspired mission, waking up genius, contribution and service, mastering finances, global family dynamic, making a contribution, and empowering others.
The speaker shares a psychedelic experience in their teens but emphasizes the power of meditation over drugs.
Synchronicities and premonitions have occurred, with the speaker keeping records of these experiences.
The speaker encourages listeners to be themselves and embrace their magnificence rather than imitating others.

01:42:51

"Play authentically to leave lasting legacy"

To expand your consciousness and leave a lasting legacy, focus on playing authentically, allowing your inner thoughts to determine your level of evolution over time, leading to a significant impact on the world.

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