Stop Auto-Accommodating - For Empaths, Codependents & Highly Sensitive People - Terri Cole
Terri Cole・16 minutes read
Terry Cole discusses auto-accommodating and hyper-awareness, highlighting the mental exhaustion and wasted energy it entails. He offers tools like breathing exercises and setting intentions to combat these behaviors, including a cognitive technique using a rubber band, detailed in a three-step cheat sheet shared on social media, and announces a weekend event at Kripalu focusing on boundaries for women.
Insights
- Auto-accommodating involves taking on excessive responsibility and being hyper-vigilant, leading to mental exhaustion and wasted energy.
- Hyper-awareness, stemming from childhood survival mechanisms, can be a superpower but can also trigger fight-or-flight responses if left unchecked; combatting this involves self-awareness practices like breathing exercises and setting intentions.
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Recent questions
What is auto-accommodating?
It involves hyper-vigilance and excessive responsibility.
How does childhood experiences relate to hyper-awareness?
Childhood chaos or dysfunction can lead to hyper-awareness.
What is a cognitive behavioral technique to combat auto-accommodating?
Use a rubber band on your wrist.
How can hyper-awareness be managed effectively?
Through self-reflection and breathing exercises.
What event is announced on the Terry Cole show?
A weekend event at Kripalu focusing on boundaries for women.
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Summary
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"Auto-accommodating and hyper-awareness: A discussion"
- Terry Cole hosts the Terry Cole show, discussing auto-accommodating and hyper-awareness.
- Auto-accommodating involves hyper-vigilance and excessive responsibility for situations.
- Terry shares a personal example of auto-accommodating at a hair salon.
- The cost of auto-accommodating includes mental exhaustion and wasted energy.
- Childhood experiences, like chaos or dysfunction, can lead to hyper-awareness.
- Hyper-awareness stems from childhood survival mechanisms and can be exhausting.
- Hyper-awareness can be a superpower but unchecked, it leads to fight-or-flight responses.
- To combat auto-accommodating, raise awareness through breathing exercises and self-reflection.
- Establish a morning practice for stillness and intention-setting to combat auto-accommodating.
- Use a rubber band on your wrist as a cognitive behavioral technique to notice and stop auto-accommodating behaviors.
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"Rubber band technique for avoiding over-functioning"
- Create an association of discomfort by snapping a rubber band when offering unsolicited advice or over-functioning, aiming to train the unconscious and conscious mind to avoid such behavior. This technique is detailed in a three-step cheat sheet provided, with the suggestion to share the episode on social media to reach and help others. Additionally, a weekend event at Kripalu focusing on boundaries for women is announced, happening from September 13th to 15th, with gratitude expressed towards loyal followers and encouragement to prioritize self-care.
