How to Get Over The End of a Relationship | Antonio Pascual-Leone | TEDxUniversityofWindsor

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Individuals must address unresolved emotions and "unfinished business" to move on successfully from a significant relationship, overcoming grief, betrayal, and other emotions triggered by the breakup. Research shows that the process involves confronting discomfort, delving into underlying emotions and needs, and ultimately expressing healthy needs to achieve closure and healing.

Insights

  • Addressing unresolved emotions and "unfinished business" is crucial in moving on from a relationship, contrary to the belief that time alone will heal emotional wounds.
  • Research highlights three key steps in resolving emotional baggage post-relationship: facing the new normal, exploring underlying emotions, and articulating core needs for closure and healing.

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Recent questions

  • How do emotions change after a relationship ends?

    Emotions can vary from grief to betrayal.

  • What are the steps to resolving emotional baggage from a relationship?

    Confronting discomfort, delving into emotions, expressing needs.

  • Is moving on from a relationship solely a matter of time?

    No, it involves addressing and resolving emotional issues.

  • What role do unresolved emotions play in post-relationship healing?

    They can hinder progress and prevent closure.

  • How can individuals progress through the steps of resolving emotional baggage?

    By confronting discomfort, delving into emotions, and expressing needs.

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Navigating Emotional Baggage After Relationship Ends

  • Antonio Pasquale Leone, a clinical psychologist, specializes in researching how emotions change, particularly in the context of relationships.
  • He addresses the process of overcoming the end of a significant relationship, focusing on unresolved emotions and "unfinished business."
  • The end of a relationship can trigger various emotions, from grief to betrayal, affecting individuals differently.
  • Contrary to common belief, moving on from a relationship is not solely a matter of time passing; it involves addressing and resolving emotional issues.
  • Research indicates that individuals often go through three distinct steps in resolving emotional baggage related to relationships.
  • The first step involves confronting the discomfort and awkwardness of the new normal after a relationship ends, rather than avoiding it.
  • The second step entails delving into deeper, underlying emotions and self-doubts that the end of a relationship may have stirred up.
  • To progress through the second step, individuals must identify and articulate their core existential needs, separate from the specific relationship.
  • The final step involves acknowledging and expressing healthy needs, resentments, and losses related to the relationship's end to facilitate closure.
  • Ultimately, a successful resolution of emotional baggage from a relationship can lead to forgiveness, reconciliation, or accountability, with time playing a crucial role in the healing process.
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