Covert Narcissist’s Sadistic Envy Fantasy (conference presentation)

Prof. Sam Vaknin2 minutes read

Malicious Envy involves a desire to destroy those superior to you, linked to covert narcissism and sadistic tendencies, providing a source of gratification for inflicting harm and maintaining power. Social media can exacerbate malicious envy, while benign envy motivates self-improvement and positive actions for personal growth.

Insights

  • Malicious envy, distinct from benign envy and jealousy, involves a desire to harm someone superior, while benign envy and jealousy spur self-improvement.
  • Covert narcissists exhibit malicious envy, sadistic tendencies, and pseudo humility, compensating for their lack of self-efficacy through fantasies where they feel powerful, deriving pleasure from inflicting pain on others, especially in intimate relationships.

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Recent questions

  • What distinguishes malicious envy from benign envy?

    Malicious envy involves a desire to destroy someone superior, while benign envy motivates self-improvement.

  • How do covert narcissists exhibit malicious envy?

    Covert narcissists display pseudo humility and sadistic tendencies.

  • What role does sadism play in narcissistic personality disorder?

    Sadism in narcissistic personality disorder involves deriving power from causing pain.

  • How can social media platforms exacerbate malicious envy?

    Social media platforms encourage comparison and aggression among users.

  • What distinguishes grandiose narcissism from covert narcissism?

    Grandiose narcissism is linked to sadism through rivalry and envy.

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Summary

00:00

"Understanding Malicious Envy in Narcissism"

  • Malicious Envy is distinct from benign envy and jealousy, as it involves a desire to destroy someone superior to you, while benign envy and jealousy motivate self-improvement.
  • Malicious Envy is a key characteristic of covert narcissists, who display pseudo humility, victimhood, and sadistic tendencies.
  • Covert narcissists compensate for their lack of self-efficacy in reality by resorting to fantasy, where they feel safe and powerful.
  • Sadism in narcissistic personality disorder is about deriving power from inflicting pain on others, rather than just enjoying their suffering.
  • The power to inflict pain is a source of gratification for narcissists, especially in intimate relationships where they interpret intimacy as a license to cause harm.
  • Narcissists can be sadistic in both aggressive and passive-aggressive ways, such as frustrating, withholding, or breaking promises.
  • Covert narcissists have a rich fantasy life to cope with their inability to succeed in reality and their fear of retribution for their actions.
  • Sadism is connected to malicious envy and narcissistic rivalry in pathological narcissism, with sadism being a component of the dark tetrad personality.
  • Narcissistic rivalry involves negative emotions when others succeed and positive emotions when they fail, while malicious envy leads to anger, hostility, and a desire to destroy the envied person.
  • Social media platforms can exacerbate malicious envy through mechanisms like likes, encouraging comparison and aggression among users.

22:36

"Sadism and Envy in Dark Personalities"

  • Envy has negative and positive aspects, with malicious Envy being the negative aspect.
  • Grandiose narcissism is linked to sadism through rivalry and Envy.
  • Individuals with grandiose narcissism find pleasure in causing pain to others.
  • Malicious Envy is triggered by others' success and can lead to hostile feelings.
  • Grandiose narcissists may seek pleasure in provoking or observing pain in others.
  • Sadism is a predictor of narcissism and can stem from childhood frustration.
  • Sadism can lead to extreme behaviors in response to frustration and narcissistic injuries.
  • Sadism is associated with dark personality traits and can lead to antisocial behaviors.
  • Sadism is linked to bullying and unprovoked aggression in various studies.
  • Sadism can be considered a component of the dark Triad personality traits.

43:29

Envy: Self-improvement vs. destructive aggression

  • Benign envy focuses on self-improvement, motivating positive actions to become a better version of oneself, while malicious envy is centered on destroying others to alleviate personal insecurities and maintain a false positive self-image.
  • Malicious envy is characterized by hostility, anger, devaluation, and intentional harm towards others to diminish threats to the ego, often leading to narcissistic injuries and modifications.
  • Envy, particularly malicious envy, is linked to covert or vulnerable narcissism, driving individuals with high levels of narcissism to aggress against others to destroy their perceived superior qualities, deriving sadistic pleasure and reinforcing their sense of self-worth through aggression and destruction.
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