Betrayal Patterns: How narcissist deceive you and betray your trust

DoctorRamani・2 minutes read

Narcissistic individuals lie to uphold a positive self-image, often creating false realities and using deception to avoid judgment. Cheating by narcissists is driven by a need for validation, lacking empathy for their partners, while non-narcissistic cheaters show genuine contrition, commit to change, and work to rebuild trust.

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  • Narcissistic individuals lie to protect their ego and maintain a grandiose self-image, prioritizing looking good to others over truth, blurring reality and fiction to create a delusional identity.
  • Future faking, a manipulative tactic used by narcissists, involves making grand promises to keep individuals engaged without actual effort, leading to financial dependency, psychological control, and manipulation in relationships.

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Recent questions

  • Why do narcissistic individuals lie?

    To maintain a positive image for validation and admiration. Narcissists fabricate stories to create a false reality portraying themselves as good people. Lies serve to protect their ego and maintain a grandiose self-image. They prioritize looking good to others over truth, using lies to uphold their desired image.

  • How do narcissists react when caught lying?

    When caught in a lie, narcissists deflect blame, gaslight, or deny the truth to maintain their false reality. They refuse to take responsibility for their actions and manipulate the situation to avoid facing the consequences of their lies.

  • What drives narcissistic cheaters to be unfaithful?

    Cheating by narcissists is driven by a need for new narcissistic supply and validation. They lack empathy for their partners and gaslight to deny their actions, causing deep emotional harm. The desire for constant admiration and attention leads them to seek validation outside the relationship through infidelity.

  • How do non-narcissistic cheaters differ in their behavior?

    Non-narcissistic cheaters recognize the hurt caused by their actions, apologize genuinely, commit to change, and work hard to rebuild trust. They take responsibility for their mistakes and show genuine remorse for the pain they have caused, striving to make amends and improve the relationship.

  • What is future faking and how does it affect individuals?

    Future faking is a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to make promises about the future to keep their partner hooked. It preys on the vulnerable hope of the partner, convincing them to stay in the relationship for promised future benefits. This tactic can lead to financial dependency, psychological control, and manipulation in relationships, causing individuals to overlook abuse and flaws in the narcissist.

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Narcissists Lie to Maintain Positive Image

  • Narcissistic individuals lie more to maintain a positive image for validation and admiration.
  • They often fabricate stories to create a false reality portraying themselves as good people.
  • Lies serve to protect their ego and maintain a grandiose self-image.
  • Narcissists prioritize looking good to others over truth, using lies to uphold their desired image.
  • Their lies blur the lines between reality and fiction, creating a delusional identity.
  • Narcissists lie to avoid judgment for unethical behavior or actions that may reflect poorly on them.
  • White lies are harmless, while betrayal lies conceal harmful information to protect the narcissist.
  • When caught in a lie, narcissists deflect blame, gaslight, or deny the truth to maintain their false reality.
  • Cheating by narcissists is driven by a need for new narcissistic supply and validation.
  • Narcissistic cheaters lack empathy for their partners and gaslight to deny their actions, causing deep emotional harm.

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Navigating Cheating and Future Faking in Relationships

  • Cheating can cause devastation to the cheater, keeping them up at night and destroying them.
  • Non-narcissistic cheaters recognize the hurt, apologize genuinely, commit to change, and work hard to rebuild trust.
  • The couple can move past the rupture caused by cheating, viewing it as a learning experience in their relationship.
  • Cheating by a narcissist involves denial, gaslighting, and a desire to pretend it didn't happen.
  • Cheating by a non-narcissist involves genuine contrition, willingness to hear the hurt party, and respect for their decisions.
  • People may struggle to move past being cheated on, but some can learn from the experience and strengthen their relationship.
  • Future faking is a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to make promises about the future to keep their partner hooked.
  • Future faking can lead to financial dependency, psychological control, and manipulation in relationships.
  • Future faking preys on the vulnerable hope of the partner, convincing them to stay in the relationship for promised future benefits.
  • Future faking is common in narcissistic family systems and work environments, where promises are made but never fulfilled, leaving the individual feeling deceived and manipulated.

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"Beware of Future Faking Narcissists"

  • Working in a psychology team, the boss enforced strict work conditions, contrary to the usual flexibility in the field.
  • Despite promises of a bright future, the boss failed to deliver on advancements or achievements, leading to disillusionment among employees.
  • Future faking, a manipulative tactic, involves making grand promises to keep individuals engaged without actual effort.
  • Narcissists use future faking to maintain validation and avoid their insecurities, manipulating individuals by promising grandiose futures.
  • Future faking can lead individuals to overlook abuse and flaws in the narcissist, staying in unhealthy relationships due to promised dreams.
  • Recognizing smaller instances of future faking, like unfulfilled promises, can help individuals avoid falling for larger future fakes.
  • Taking charge of one's dreams and being cautious of promises can prevent falling victim to future faking and its detrimental effects.
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