A better way to talk about love | Mandy Len Catron

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Love is often described using metaphors of violence and illness, equating it to madness and uncontrollable emotions, but linguists recommend viewing it as a collaborative work of art that requires effort, compromise, and communication to shape relationships positively. This perspective promotes taking control of relationships, focusing on giving rather than receiving, and actively shaping the love experienced.

Insights

  • Love in Western culture is often depicted through metaphors of violence, illness, and madness, positioning individuals as victims of uncontrollable forces.
  • Linguists propose reframing love as a collaborative work of art, highlighting the importance of effort, compromise, shared goals, and communication in shaping relationships positively.

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Recent questions

  • How is love commonly described in English?

    As falling in love accidentally and uncontrollably.

  • How is love associated with madness in Western culture?

    Love is historically equated to mental illness.

  • What biological similarities exist between love and obsessive-compulsive disorder?

    Similarities in serotonin levels are found in individuals in love and those with OCD.

  • How does Western culture view lifelong monogamy in relation to love?

    Western culture values lifelong monogamy while portraying love as tumultuous and painful.

  • How can individuals actively shape their relationships according to linguists?

    By viewing love as a collaborative work of art, emphasizing effort, compromise, shared goals, and communication.

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Love as Collaborative Art: Shaping Relationships Together

  • The English language predominantly uses the metaphor of "falling in love" to describe the experience, equating it to an accidental, uncontrollable event.
  • Many metaphors used to describe love involve extreme violence or illness, positioning individuals as victims of unavoidable circumstances.
  • Love is often associated with madness in Western culture, with numerous historical references equating love to mental illness.
  • The initial stages of romantic love often involve intense emotions, with research showing similarities in serotonin levels between those in love and individuals with obsessive-compulsive disorder.
  • Love is both a biological and cultural experience, activating reward circuits in the brain while also being influenced by societal metaphors about pain, addiction, and madness.
  • The culture values lifelong monogamy while simultaneously portraying love as a tumultuous, painful experience.
  • Linguists suggest changing metaphors to view love as a collaborative work of art, emphasizing effort, compromise, shared goals, and communication.
  • Viewing love as a collaborative work of art allows individuals to actively shape their relationships, communicate openly, and focus on what they can offer rather than what they can gain.
  • This perspective on love encourages individuals to take control of their relationships, communicate openly, and actively shape the love they experience.
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