6 Negative Stories You Tell Yourself And How To Change Them

Dr. Tracey Marks10 minutes read

Early life experiences shape emotional programming in adulthood, with negative experiences potentially dominating if early trauma disrupts emotional development. Deconstructing negative stories involves challenging unrealistic beliefs and fostering vulnerability to counter negative emotional programming.

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  • Early life experiences significantly impact adult life through emotional programming shaped by positive and negative interactions.
  • Deconstructing negative emotional programming involves challenging distorted self-stories, fostering vulnerability, and countering cognitive distortions with self-soothing activities and coping statements.

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Recent questions

  • How do early life experiences impact adulthood?

    Early life experiences with parents and others leave imprints that can affect adult life. Positive and negative experiences shape emotional programming, which can have lasting effects on behavior and relationships in adulthood.

  • What are maladaptive schemas?

    Maladaptive schemas are negative stories that develop from early trauma or negative experiences. These schemas can lead to distorted self-stories and guide behavior in harmful ways, such as feelings of abandonment or unworthiness.

  • How can negative emotional programming be countered?

    Negative emotional programming can be countered by deconstructing negative stories, challenging unrealistic beliefs, and fostering vulnerability. Self-soothing activities and coping statements can also help counter negative emotional programming.

  • What drives negative stories and cognitive distortions?

    Emotional reasoning drives negative stories, leading to cognitive distortions. These distortions can perpetuate negative emotional programming and impact how individuals perceive themselves and others.

  • How can one address unrealistic beliefs and foster vulnerability?

    Addressing unrealistic beliefs and fostering vulnerability involves deconstructing negative stories, challenging distorted self-stories, and engaging in self-soothing activities. By recognizing and challenging negative emotional programming, individuals can work towards healthier emotional responses and behaviors.

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Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life

  • Early life experiences with parents and others leave imprints that affect adult life.
  • Positive and negative experiences shape emotional programming.
  • Negative experiences can dominate if early trauma disrupts emotional development.
  • Negative emotional programming leads to maladaptive schemas and distorted self-stories.
  • Six types of negative stories can guide behavior, like abandonment and unworthiness.
  • Deconstructing negative stories involves challenging unrealistic beliefs and fostering vulnerability.
  • Emotional reasoning drives negative stories, leading to cognitive distortions.
  • Self-soothing activities and coping statements can help counter negative emotional programming.
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