How long does it take to get over a breakup? | Am I Normal? with Mona Chalabi

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Getting over a breakup doesn't have a fixed timeline, with expressing feelings, engaging in distractions, and reflecting on the past relationship being helpful; focusing on hobbies and processing emotions is key for long-term healing.

Insights

  • The study on breakup recovery time was misinterpreted, focusing on the aftermath of relationship endings among undergrads rather than providing a definitive timeline for healing.
  • Couples therapist Dr. Hod Tamir emphasizes that there is no fixed duration for moving on from a breakup; coping mechanisms like expressing emotions, finding distractions, and reflecting on the past relationship are vital for emotional recovery, highlighting the importance of facing and processing feelings for long-term healing.

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Recent questions

  • How long does it take to get over a breakup?

    It varies; there is no set time.

  • What strategies can help in getting over a breakup?

    Express feelings, engage in distractions, reflect on past.

  • Does focusing on positive aspects of love help in recovery?

    No, it does not significantly impact recovery.

  • Is there a specific timeframe for moving on from a breakup?

    No, it varies for each individual.

  • What are effective ways to diminish raw emotions after a breakup?

    Express feelings, engage in distractions, reflect on past.

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Summary

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Breakup recovery varies; emotions must be faced.

  • A study once claimed it takes 11 weeks to get over a breakup, but it was misinterpreted; the study focused on the aftereffects of ending a relationship among undergrads, not the actual recovery time.
  • Couples therapist Dr. Hod Tamir suggests that there is no set time to get over a breakup; expressing feelings, engaging in distractions, and eventually reflecting on the past relationship can help diminish raw emotions.
  • Research shows that distracting oneself with hobbies or negative reappraisal of the ex can help reduce love feelings, while focusing on the positive aspects of love does not significantly impact recovery; ultimately, facing and processing emotions is crucial for long-term healing after a breakup.
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