Brené Brown: How to “Brave the Wilderness” & Find True Belonging

Marie Forleo2 minutes read

Dr. Brené Brown discusses the importance of true belonging, trust elements in relationships, and the dangers of dehumanization in "Braving the Wilderness." She emphasizes the need for curiosity, humility, and constructive conversations rather than shaming or violence to move forward collectively and stay true to personal values.

Insights

  • True belonging involves finding sacredness in connection while having the courage to stand alone, as emphasized by Brené Brown in "Braving the Wilderness."
  • Dehumanization, a dangerous process evident in history and current events, uses language to strip individuals of their humanity, leading to moral exclusion and eroding societal values.

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  • What is the main focus of Brené Brown's book "Braving the Wilderness"?

    True belonging and courage.

  • What does the acronym "Braving" stand for in trust elements?

    Boundaries, reliability, accountability, vault, integrity, nonjudgment, and generosity.

  • How does dehumanization impact individuals and society?

    Dehumanization slowly erodes basic human rights and leads to moral exclusion.

  • What are the key components of engaging in difficult conversations?

    Humility, curiosity, and acknowledging imperfection.

  • How does Brené Brown suggest responding to offensive remarks?

    With assertiveness and questioning.

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Summary

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"Brené Brown: Braving True Belonging and Courage"

  • Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston and author of three New York Times bestsellers.
  • Her TED talk is one of the top five most viewed in the world with over 30 million views.
  • Brené is the founder of Brave Leaders, Inc., offering courage-building programs.
  • Her latest book, "Braving the Wilderness," focuses on true belonging and courage.
  • True belonging, as per Maya Angelou's quote, involves finding sacredness in being part of something while having the courage to stand alone.
  • "Braving" is an acronym for trust elements: boundaries, reliability, accountability, vault, integrity, nonjudgment, and generosity.
  • The vault in trust involves not only keeping confidences but also refraining from sharing others' stories.
  • Integrity in trust means choosing courage over comfort and practicing values.
  • Nonjudgment in trust allows for asking for help without feeling judged and assuming positive intent.
  • "Braving the Wilderness" provides a concrete checklist for managing times of standing alone and moving away from ideological beliefs.

11:50

Dehumanization: Impact, Resistance, and Accountability

  • Dehumanization is a dangerous process that slowly moves people out of the protective zone of basic human rights.
  • It primarily uses words and images to dehumanize individuals, leading to moral exclusion.
  • Dehumanization has been at the core of every recorded genocide in history, such as the Nazis using the term "subhuman" for Jews.
  • The process of dehumanization is evident in current leadership and resistance, with dehumanizing language being used against those with differing opinions.
  • Dehumanizing language reflects more on the speaker than the target and can erode one's soul.
  • Dehumanization is not a tool for social justice but a way to offload anger, fear, and rage.
  • Engaging in difficult conversations requires humility, curiosity, and acknowledging imperfection.
  • Opting out of speaking out due to fear of criticism is a form of privilege.
  • Constructive conversations involve holding people accountable rather than shaming them.
  • Shaming individuals does not drive positive behavior but rather fuels rage, anger, rationalization, and blame.

24:47

"Promoting Curiosity and Accountability in Conversations"

  • Posting negative memes contributes to vitriol and does not solve anything
  • Shame leads to more shame, just like violence leads to more violence
  • Encourages upgrading tools beyond just shame or coddling, suggesting curiosity, accountability, and social justice
  • Promotes taking concrete actions and having conversations to move forward collectively
  • Encourages discussing sensitive topics with curiosity and generosity
  • Emphasizes the importance of asking questions and seeking to understand different perspectives
  • Advocates for responding to offensive remarks with assertiveness and questioning
  • Suggests that asking questions and seeking understanding can lead to shifts in consciousness
  • Discusses the struggle with staying true to personal values and authenticity in public speaking engagements
  • Emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself and not compromising values for acceptance

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