A Psychologist's Thoughts On Love and Marriage-Orion Taraban, Psy.D. (Part 1)

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Men often fall in love with women who provide exceptional sexual experiences, not necessarily due to love or kindness but because of the intense pleasure they receive. To captivate a man, a woman should offer unique and extraordinary sexual encounters that he cannot easily find elsewhere.

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  • Men often fall for women who provide intense sexual experiences, such as strippers or those with personality disorders, prioritizing pleasure over love or kindness.
  • Women seeking committed relationships should guide interactions towards that goal, understanding men's initial focus on physical intimacy and the necessity of offering unique sexual encounters to captivate them.

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  • How can women effectively attract men?

    Women can attract men by being open to sexual relationships, engaging in sexual activities quickly, and being sexually adventurous to communicate desire and attraction effectively. Providing unique and irreplaceable sexual experiences is crucial in today's dating market, where sex has become cheap. Women should aim to be indispensable to a man by assisting in his life and becoming a valuable asset, ensuring job security and deepening intimacy. It is essential to understand power differentials, communicate effectively without disrespecting a man's authority, and avoid undermining his decisions to maintain a healthy dynamic. Emotional regulation and self-soothing are also crucial to prevent disrespectful behavior towards men.

  • What are some strategies for men to attract women?

    Men can attract women by developing an interesting lifestyle, useful skills, and a life mission. They should focus on building a boat (lifestyle), learning to sail (developing expertise), and plotting a course (having a life mission) to become attractive to women. Confidence is crucial in attracting women, more so than physical attributes like abs or wealth. Seduction techniques that focus on emotional stimulation are essential for men to attract women effectively. Various strategies work for men, including being cocky and playful, funny, or displaying low activation game.

  • Why are men often attracted to strippers and prostitutes?

    Men are often attracted to strippers, prostitutes, and women with personality disorders due to the intense sexual experiences these women provide. The pleasure derived from these encounters can be intense and addictive for men, leading them to seek out such experiences. The allure of these women lies in the unique and extraordinary sexual encounters they offer, which can be difficult for men to find elsewhere. This intense pleasure can overshadow other aspects of a relationship, leading men to fall in love with women who provide exceptional sexual experiences.

  • How can women avoid disrespecting men in relationships?

    Women can avoid disrespecting men in relationships by understanding power differentials, communicating effectively without undermining a man's authority, and refraining from questioning his decisions. Disrespect can manifest in various forms, including verbal abuse, criticism, physical abuse, mocking, demanding explanations, and interrogating. It is crucial for women to find ways to disapprove or disagree without being disrespectful, following the rule of not saying anything to a man that wouldn't be said to a boss. Emotional regulation and self-soothing are essential for women to prevent disrespectful behavior towards men and maintain a healthy dynamic.

  • What is the key to attracting women as a man?

    The key to attracting women as a man lies in developing an interesting lifestyle, useful skills, and a life mission. Men should focus on building a boat (lifestyle), learning to sail (developing expertise), and plotting a course (having a life mission) to become attractive to women. Confidence is crucial in attracting women, more so than physical attributes like abs or wealth. Seduction techniques that focus on emotional stimulation are essential for men to attract women effectively. Various strategies work for men, including being cocky and playful, funny, or displaying low activation game.

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Summary

00:00

"Sexual Dynamics and Dating Strategies Revealed"

  • Men often fall in love with strippers, prostitutes, and women with personality disorders due to the intense sexual experiences these women provide.
  • The question of what women want is complex, with women desiring what other women desire more than what is best for themselves.
  • Both men and women engage in intrasexual status games and intersexual power games simultaneously, making it challenging to win at both.
  • Women can effectively "hunt" in the dating market, targeting specific men for relationships, due to the asymmetry in openness to sexual relationships between men and women.
  • A study showed that women approaching men for casual sex had a 75% success rate, while men approaching women had a 0% success rate.
  • To attract a man, a woman should make it clear she is open to a sexual relationship and be willing to engage in sexual activities quickly.
  • Women should aim to be the most sexually adventurous version of themselves to communicate their high level of desire and attraction to a man.
  • Providing a unique and irreplaceable sexual experience is crucial, as sex has become cheap in today's dating market.
  • The shift in societal norms, particularly due to birth control, has led to sex preceding commitment in relationships.
  • Requiring commitment before sex was historically due to the threat of pregnancy and women's dependence on men for survival, which has changed with societal shifts.

17:31

"Captivating Men Through Exceptional Sexual Experiences"

  • Men often fall in love with women who provide exceptional sexual experiences, not necessarily due to love or kindness but because of the intense pleasure they receive.
  • To captivate a man, a woman should offer unique and extraordinary sexual encounters that he cannot easily find elsewhere.
  • Men typically do not seek commitment on initial dates but focus on physical intimacy; women should understand this dynamic.
  • Women aiming for committed relationships should strategically guide interactions towards that goal, as men usually do not naturally progress to commitment without direction.
  • Women should aim to be indispensable to a man by assisting in his life and becoming a valuable asset, ensuring job security and deepening intimacy.
  • Disrespecting a man is a critical mistake that can erode respect and attraction over time, potentially leading to the end of a relationship.
  • Disrespect can manifest in various forms, including verbal abuse, criticism, physical abuse, mocking, demanding explanations, and interrogating.
  • Women should avoid undermining a man's authority or questioning his decisions, as it can be perceived as disrespectful and damaging to the relationship.
  • Emotional regulation and self-soothing are essential for women to prevent disrespectful behavior towards men, maintaining a healthy dynamic.
  • Building a relationship with a man requires understanding power differentials and communicating effectively without disrespecting his position or authority.

34:13

"Men's Guide to Attracting Women Successfully"

  • Women should find ways to disapprove or disagree without disrespecting men, following the rule of not saying anything to a man that wouldn't be said to a boss.
  • Men need to provide a better lifestyle to attract women, who treat men like jobs, leading to a less personal view of dating.
  • Men should understand that being a woman's best offer is crucial, especially when young and lacking wealth, status, or maturity.
  • Men must learn to wait due to the differing sexual marketplace values of men and women, with men's value increasing with age.
  • Men need to build a boat (lifestyle), learn to sail (develop expertise), and plot a course (have a life mission) to become attractive to women.
  • Building a boat requires resources and knowledge, emphasizing the importance of understanding how reality works.
  • Learning to sail involves developing expertise that solves problems for others, making a man successful and attractive.
  • Plotting a course entails having an overarching life mission to prevent making women the center of one's life and resisting appeasement in relationships.
  • Men should avoid appeasing women's negative emotions to maintain respect and prevent creating a dynamic where manipulation is rewarded.
  • Overall, men must focus on developing an interesting lifestyle, useful skills, and a life mission to attract women effectively.

51:41

Mastering Attraction: Strategies for Men and Women

  • Women need to prioritize what is most important in their lives, as anything less will lead to their downfall.
  • The game of attraction is infinite, with different strategies for men and women.
  • Men require game or strategy to attract women, focusing on stimulating emotional reactions.
  • Various strategies work for men, including being cocky and playful, funny, or displaying low activation game.
  • Confidence is crucial in attracting women, more so than physical attributes like abs or wealth.
  • Seduction techniques are essential for men to attract women, focusing on emotional stimulation.
  • Women are often attracted to "bad boys" or "assholes" due to their lack of concern for others' feelings.
  • "Assholes" do not bend to please others, maintaining a sense of safety and social freedom.
  • They are willing to fight for what they believe in and are unafraid of transgressing rules.
  • Trouble or challenges can be opportunities for growth and advancement in the hands of a master.

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"Empowerment through Purpose and Mission"

  • Knowing your purpose and mission allows you to utilize anything to advance them without fear.
  • Women appreciate [__] for her excellent and fascinating talk.
  • A break will be taken, and the discussion will resume in a week for those interested.
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